Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Positive Health--Can optimism help keep people alive?

Can optimism help keep people alive?  In the 1980s, researchers began the Multiple Risk Factor Intervention Trial (MR FIT) study with 120 men who had a heart attack.  These men allowed the researchers to look at their physical health (details such as heart damage, their blood pressure, cholesterol levels, body mass and lifestyle).  They also talked with the researchers about their families, their lives, their jobs and how they spent personal time.  The researchers noted whether the men were optimistic or pessimistic. 

During this study psychologists and cardiologists offered training in an effort to change men’s personalities from type A (aggressive and time urgent) to an easy-going personality and experienced  poor results in trying to change people's personalities.

However, some of the researchers continued with the study.  Eight and ½ years later, half the men had died from another heart attack.  The researchers noticed that the physical risk factors (from 8 ½ years earlier) did not predict the death of those men.  They found that “optimism” could have predicted who died.  “Of the sixteen most pessimistic men, fifteen died.  Of the sixteen most optimistic men, only five died.” 
The researchers found that “optimism is strongly related to protection from cardiovascular disease.”  University of Pennsylvania, Positive Health, Http://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/newsletter.aspx?id=1559

Well, folks, here we have it.  Optimism (our attitude) helps keep us alive.  

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

One last quote about kindness



“You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late.”  Ralph Waldo Emerson, Reader’s Digest Quotable Quotes, (Pleasantville, NY:Reader’s Digest Association, 1997), 79.

Monday, March 12, 2012

Kindness quote


“A warm smile is the universal language of kindness.”  William Arthur Ward, “Reward Yourself” Reader’s Digest Quotable Quotes, (Pleasantville, NY:Reader’s Digest Association, 1997), 79.

Sunday, March 11, 2012

Display of caring and kindness



My friends sent this beautiful bouquet of flowers to my book signing.  What a great display of caring and kindness!


“Two important things are to have a genuine interest in people and to be kind to them.  Kindness, I’ve discovered, is everything in life.”  Isaac Bashevis Singer, Reader’s Digest Quotable Quotes, (Pleasantville, NY:Reader’s Digest Association, 1997), 78.

Saturday, March 10, 2012

Research about kindness

Researchers at the University of Maryland found that “good intentions ease pain, add to pleasure.”  Three experiments were done. The research found that
  •  1.  Electrical shocks hurt less when the person receiving the shock believed the person administering the shock was kind (benevolent) and trying to help win money for the person receiving the shock.  This compared to two other groups—one group was ‘accidentally shocked’ and one group was ‘maliciously shocked—on purpose and for no good reason. 
  •      2. The second experiment found that people who sat in a massage chair felt more pleasure when a caring partner turned on the massage chair.  The control for this experiment involved a computer turning on the massage chair.   The good intentions of a partner added pleasure.
  •      3. This experiment involved people receiving candy.  (My kind of experiment.)  One group received candy with a note that said, “I picked this just for you.  Hope it makes you happy.”  The second group received candy with a note that said, “Whatever, I just don’t care.  I  just picked it randomly.”  Those who received the note “I picked this just for you.” scored the candy as tasting better and sweeter than the group whose candy note said, “Whatever.” 
This study concludes “Perceived benevolence (kindness, good intentions) not only improves the experience of pain and pleasure, but can also make things taste better.”  Science Daily, Good Intentions Ease Pain, Add to Pleasure, http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/01/120118165137.htm

Friday, March 9, 2012

What is Kindness?

Sister Peggy remembers only once when Mother was upset with her; when her cocker spaniel dog, Skippy jumped up on her and tore Peggy’s new coat.  In those days, the hard-working farm family often had tight finances.  Mom stretched our budget by canning and freezing the summer’s garden to stretch our winter meals.   Mom sewed many of our clothes because she was an excellent seamstress.  However, we bought our coats so the loss of Peggy’s new coat was no small concern.  Even in this situation, Peggy remembers that Mom quickly got over being upset and was kind to her daughter even in the midst of the upset.

Sister Dorothy commented that she never saw Mom being unkind to anyone; even if it was a person Mom did not particularly like, Mom was still considerate and kind.  These comments show a tribute to a special lady; one that people love and honor years after her death.  

What is kindness?  My Webster’s New World dictionary calls it the act of being kind (sympathetic, gentle, benevolent)  

 A quote from Mother Teresa says it like this:  “Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.”  Reader’s Digest Quotable Quotes, (Pleasantville, NY:Reader’s Digest Association, 1997, 78.

More about kindness tomorrow.


Thursday, March 8, 2012

Kindness in action

February 19th was the 7 year anniversary of Mother’s death.  Dad worked hard and provided for us but it was Mom who was the heart and soul of our family.  As we frequently do, several of us recently  shared memories (by email) of Mom.  I asked for a favorite story about Mother.  Granddaughter Kim responded that she thinks often of Mother’s kindness.  Kim went on to say that Grandma was her role model for kindness and that she (Kim) strives to add kindness to her daily interactions also.
Kim shared a memory of Mom.  We and extended family gathered at a local park for a family reunion picnic.  During the afternoon, Mom heard that her two grandsons (approximately 9 and 10 years old) were playing in another part of the park when some bullies began harassing the boys.  “When she heard they were in trouble, immediately she was up from the table and was running to where they were.  I will never forget the look on her face as she RAN down the hill.  I’m sure she was fearful, but at that moment I remember thinking…’those kids are in big trouble.’ Mom had quickly shifted into protective grandmother mode and she was off to defend her grandsons.